The Quiet Power of Acceptance: A Reflection

Acceptance

Today, I’ve been thinking deeply about the concept of acceptance, the idea of becoming more conscious, as individuals and as a community, of what it means to be truly accepting. I do a lot of work with clients around self-acceptance, and it’s often heartbreaking to witness how many people, both personally and professionally, are their own harshest critic. In my experience, that inner critic is usually formed early in life. And when self-acceptance is so difficult, it’s no surprise that accepting others can also feel like a challenge.

There is already plenty of judgment in the world. Imagine, just for a moment, what it might be like if each of us practiced being a little more accepting, especially of people who are different from us. People who may look different, come from different backgrounds, or hold different beliefs, such as religious, political, or otherwise, that differ from our own.

I often wonder why it’s so hard for many of us to accept that others may feel strongly about things we deeply disagree with. What if we allowed others to have their beliefs, even when those beliefs stand in direct contrast to our own? How would we feel if we gave ourselves permission to be more open, more curious, and less defensive?

It seems that judgment often comes more easily than understanding. Spotting differences is more instinctual than noticing similarities. And when we’re confronted with opposing views, our first response is often to defend ourselves. That defensive stance feels natural, maybe even protective, but I believe we’re capable of something more. I believe we can learn to respond with openness instead of resistance.

There really is no shortage of judgment in the world. It’s just outside your door. But wouldn’t it be something if each of us could feel a little more accepted by our peer group, our community, and ourselves?

So here’s my encouragement for today:

  • Take a moment to reflect on your current circumstances.
  • Be mindful of your actions and interactions.
  • Consider how you might practice acceptance with those who are different from you in some way, whether in appearance, background, belief, or behavior.
  • Try letting someone be exactly who they are, without trying to change them, correct them, or convince them to think like you.

It may feel uncomfortable at first. It may even feel counterintuitive. But I encourage you to try it this week. Observe how it feels to be more accepting, and notice what shifts within yourself and in your relationships. I have a sneaky suspicion that this practice won’t just benefit others. It will benefit you, too.